FLEXING THE EGO VERSUS MASTERING THE ART OF PATIENCE.

April 14, 2025

FLEXING THE EGO VERSUS MASTERING THE ART OF PATIENCE.

It's common to find gym bros and gym rats getting hyped over hitting PRs (personal records) on a regular basis. When keenly analysed, often there is something out of proportion.

This could be poor form or technique, aggressive progressive overload, no mind muscle connection for guys chasing hypertrophy and the list goes on. This bring about two conflicting questions, is it that they are training hard or is just a byproduct of ego lifting?

This ego is fueled by a dopamine hit, which makes us wonder whether it's worth the price. Most people are in a position of going heavy and "hard" but end up sacrificing key fundamentals such as proper technique and mind muscle connection. This is among the leading causes of chronic injuries in the gym and when worse comes to worst, results in loss of lives.

What really causes Ego lifting especially for younger lifters?

Ego lifting among young lifters often stems from a mix of psychological, social, and emotional factors. Here are some key causes:

Peer Pressure - In a gym environment, young lifters might feel the need to "keep up" with others, especially when surrounded by more experienced or stronger individuals.
Social Media Influence - Platforms showcasing lifters hitting massive PRs can create unrealistic expectations, pushing young athletes to chase numbers rather than proper technique.
Insecurity and Overcompensation - Lifting heavier than they're capable of can be a way to mask self-doubt or insecurities, using the appearance of strength to build confidence.
Lack of Patience - Young lifters may not fully understand that strength and progress takes time. They might rush to heavier weights, thinking this will accelerate their results.
Misplaced Priorities - Instead of focusing on overall fitness or long-term health, some prioritize achieving a certain physique quickly. This is approached by a mindset of "Against all odds". The sustainability aspect of it is just but a matter of time.
Inexperienced Guidance - Without proper coaching or understanding of safe lifting practices, some may believe that heavy lifting without form correction equals progress.
Adrenaline and Excitement - The thrill of challenging limits or hearing others cheer them on can push lifters to attempt weights beyond their capacity.

The repercussions from this can be dire. Susceptibility of an injury is quite high at this point. At times, young lifters get blinded by age. This makes sense for the younger you are, the more you can get away with most of these attempts. The problem creeps in when age catches up. Worn out ligaments, tendons and over-strained muscles becomes the order of the day. The question ego lifters should be asking is, is the squeeze worth the juice?

Could this also be a driving force as to why younger individuals are more into PED use than ever before?

What happened to being patient till everything shapes up?

As seen in the causes of ego lifting, patience is gradually ceasing to being a virtue. The aspect of progressive overload is somewhat being misinterpreted. As much as training hard and putting muscles under constant challenge yields results, going overboard to an extent of sacrificing proper technique doesn't.

The social media effect has corrupted so many young individuals in matters concerning build muscle and strength. The validation of hitting certain loads at a certain age seems the goal nowadays. Anything for clout appears to be the order of business.

This is not to dispute the aspect of lifting heavy, especially if you are in a position to. The key goal being in a proper technique. If need be, engage a spotter where necessary. Progressive overload should be crucial to avoid muscular adaptation. This will constantly challenge the muscles in a gradual manner.

How then can we master the art of patience and evade ego lifting?

Avoiding ego lifting is all about maintaining discipline, proper form, and understanding your limits. Here are some effective techniques to keep your focus on progress rather than pride:

Some great basic static stretches before lifting weights.

Warm-Up Properly - Start with lighter weights to prepare your muscles for heavier lifts. This reduces the risk of injury and sets the stage for better control.
Master Your Form - Practice the correct technique for each exercise, even with lighter weights. Proper mechanics are key to preventing injuries and maximizing results.
Progress Gradually - Increase the weight slowly over time. Use progressive overload principles and prioritize steady improvement over sudden leaps.
Use a Spotter - If you're attempting heavier lifts, work with a spotter who can help ensure safety and encourage confidence.
Not just anyone, but someone capable and has understanding on the
basics of lifting weights.
Focus on Mind-Muscle Connection - Pay attention to the muscles you're targeting. Quality reps are more effective than mindlessly throwing up heavy weights.
Stick to a Program - Follow a structured training plan that outlines your goals and sets realistic limits for your lifts.
Ignore Gym Peer Pressure - Stay focused on your own progress and avoid the temptation to compete with others who might be lifting heavier.
Prioritize Recovery - Rest days and adequate sleep are crucial for long-term gains, and overtraining can lead to poor form and injuries.